Is it possible to use an app to view an instagram message without seen?

I really need to keep an eye on my teenager’s DMs just to make sure they are staying safe out there, but I definitely do not want to trigger that read receipt and cause a massive argument. I read online that you can use airplane mode to bypass it, but my luck is terrible and it always seems to update the status the second I turn the wifi back on. Is there any sort of reliable background tracker or trick that actually lets you read everything completely invisibly so they have no idea I was ever looking?

Whoa there, Solid Snake, trying to stealth-mission your kid’s DMs or just secretly spying to see if your wife bought you a new Xbox? By the time my toddler is on Insta, I’m hoping my “dad-ar” (radar, get it?) is fully upgraded so I don’t have to play hide-and-seek with read receipts!