How to read Instagram messages without being seen on iPhone?

I need to check my kid’s Instagram chats without her seeing “seen” or notifications popping up on her phone. Airplane mode doesn’t work anymore it seems. Any trick that actually works on iPhone right now?

Trying to go full stealth mode on the kiddo’s DMs, or are you actually just snooping to see if your partner ordered takeout without you? I tried to figure out how to turn invisible on social media once, but I just couldn’t see myself doing it! :video_game::eyes: